这部电影给我印象最深的,是Bobby母亲Mary在听证会上的讲话,看了三遍,哭了三遍。我想从Mary的这段讲话来讲述这部电影和自己对这部电影的理解。
Homosexuality is a sin. Homosexuals are doomed to spend eternity in hell. If they wanted to change, they could be healed of their evil ways. If they would turn away from temptation, they could be normal again. If only they would try and try harder, if it doesn't work. These are all the things I said to my son Bobby when I found out he was gay. When he told me he was homosexual, my world fell apart.
I deeply regret my lack of knowledge about gay and lesbian people. I see that everything I was taught and told was bigotry and dehumanizing slender. If I had investigated, beyond what I was told. If I had just listened to my son, when he poured his heart out to me, I would not be standing here today with you filled with regrets. I believe that God was pleased with Bobby's kind and loving spirit. In God's eyes, kindness and love are what it's all about. I didn't know that each time that I echoed eternal damnation for gay people, each time I referred to Bobby as sick and perverted and a danger to our children, his self-esteem, his sense of worth were being destroyed. And finally, his spirit broke beyond repair. It was not God's will that Bobby climbed over the side of a freeway overpass and jumped directly into the path of an 18-wheel truck which killed him instantly. Bobby's death was the direct result was his parents' ignorance and fear of the word gay.
He wanted to be a writer. His hopes and dreams should not have been taken from him. But we were. There are children like Bobby sitting in your congregations unknown to you. They will be listening. As you echo Amen and that will soon silence their prayers. Their prayers to God for understanding and acceptance and for your love. But your hatred and fear and ignorance of the word gay will silence those prayers. So before you echo Amen in your home or place of worship, think! Think and remember, a child is listening.
人人生而不同,我们不应因为他们的不同而剥夺他们的梦想和希望。而忽视和歧视却会磨灭一个人的意志,甚至磨灭他们活下去的勇气和希望。当你身边出现像Bobby一样的人时,请不要选择歧视和忽视,哪怕是一句普通的交流,哪怕是一个简单的微笑,也许就能给他们多一份的勇气,多一份的希望,让他们坚强地,勇敢地走下去。正如Mary所说“before you echo Amen in your home or place of worship, think and remember, a child is listening.”